Wednesday, October 3, 2007

Syd

This girl was elected today as the president of the student council for her junior high school.

Syd is kind and conscientious, considerate and careful. She is enrolled in all honors classes. Her teachers are fond of her.

She's blessed with a lithe frame and good looks. Her smile will melt your heart.

She is a high-achieving kid with tremendous leadership qualities.

I adore her.

And now she's been elected by her peers as the president of the student body.

I try to stay relatively disengaged from my kids' accomplishments and failures. I am proud of them, for sure. I encourage them. I do the best that I can as their mother. I am devoted to their well-being and do everything I can to meet their needs - but I never want to submit to the lure of assigning myself value according to how well my children perform in their world. I heard a message in church some years ago that suggested that the worst a parent can do is base their success as parents (or as people) on the achievements of their children.

But today, for just a minute, I allowed myself this thought:

"I must be doing something right."

And it felt good.

Now back to your regulary scheduled program.


5 comments:

Willy said...

What a beautiful insight about how to approach raising and seeing your kids....wish I'd have heard that before having our third! But unconditional love WILL GET THE JOB DONE!....It has for Jesus....I know...I'm one of his kids! Give Syd a hearty congratulations from here in central Ohio! Continue to share these insights Beth....as a parent of 4 (all over 30 and 8 with spouses!) I need to be reminded!reminded!

Jayne said...

Yay for Syd! That is a huge accomplishment and you should be proud! :c) And, you are doing all sorts of things right Beth by just following your heart.

KGMom said...

Hurray, Syd.
And yes, you--Mom--are doing something right!

Mary said...

Beth, you ARE doing something right. I'm so proud of you! And your wonderful daughter, too. Go, Syd!

Take a bow, Beth.

Rainbow dreams said...

Good on her Beth, and good on you - you are doing something right and that is far different from assigning yourself value according to your kids accomplishments - it's about recognising the role you play,
Hugs
Katie
xx